Why the 2016 Sports Illustrated Swimsuit issue is important

I'm a certified personal trainer. My job is not to make people shrink.  My job is to educate my clients and help them reach the goals they set for themselves. Not everyone's goals are the same.  My goals are not your goals and vice versa.  So why am I bringing up the SI swimsuit issue?  I could write at length about this topic, but I'm going to just share a few things.

Why the 2016 Sports Illustrated Swimsuit issue is important:

1. As a woman who has battled disordered eating, bullying (now we call it fat shaming), yo-yo dieting and poor self worth for most of my life, the three very different women on this cover represent a societal shift.  It represents that the perceived standard of beauty and sexiness is starting to change.  Sidenote: the editors and marketing team realized this would create buzz.  Let's get down to it: it's all about money. If these covers entice people to buy magazines, then the gamble paid off.

2.  Health is a lifestyle, not a size.  I don't know a lot about Hailey Clauson.  I have followed Ashley Graham's career for about a year.  I've been a Ronda Rousey fan for 6+ years.  I have watched and read about Rousey's lifestyle and nutrition.  She is healthy, athletic and beautiful.  Ashley Graham exercises on a regular basis, enjoys a diet of balance and moderation and is beautiful.  Though I don't know a lot about her, Clauson is also a beautiful woman.  All three of these women make a living off their appearance.  To say that Rousey and Graham are not healthy because they don't look like Clauson is an ignorant statement. What does their blood work, blood pressure or resting heart rate look like?  Those are really the biggest measures of our health, not how we look in a bathing suit.

3.  Making a decision to lead a healthier lifestyle is major.  Losing weight, gaining muscle, training for an endurance race or simply improving your eating habits are all challenging in their own way depending on the person.   I can tell you that for a lot of my weight loss clients, the biggest battle I help them face is what's going on between their ears.  Overcoming what we see in the mirror and think about our bodies are two of the biggest obstacles in reaching health goals.  Don't minimize the effect of what seeing a woman who "looks like you" on the cover of a magazine might do for a woman's self esteem.  (anyone remember wanting to look like Cindy Crawford, Kathy Ireland or Hannah Davis and realizing that may never happen?)

4. No one has the right to tell you what your body should look like.  It's your choice.  The kind of lifestyle you want to lead will have an impact on what your body looks like.  Hailey Clauson's body works for her career.  Ashley Graham's body works for her lifestyle and career.  Ronda Rousey has made her living on having muscle, strength and stamina.  Who are we to say 'your body isn't good enough?'

I could go on forever about this topic.  If you want to discuss further, leave a comment.  I welcome the dialogue, but no body bashing.

Leave Kim Kardashian Alone!

Did I get your attention?  Let me clarify: I'm not a Kim K. fan.  However, I do think she is a beautiful and intelligent woman.  Building an empire on no talent?  That takes a brain!  But, I digress.  That's not the point of this post.

Leave Kim Kardashian alone!

Why, you ask?  She had a baby four days ago;  a beautiful boy named Saint West (I'm embarrassed I know that). After FOUR days, the media is already circling like sharks after blood in the water: WHEN WILL SHE LOSE THE BABY WEIGHT?

It's been FOUR FREAKING DAYS!! 

Photo of Kim from her Instagram account on the day she gave birth.

In case you didn't know, she should be focused on bonding with her baby, nursing, sleeping (haha), snuggling and just enjoying her little miracle (all babies are blessings).  Yet, the media is salivating over the photos of her post-pregnancy figure and speculating when (or if) she'll be able to slim down.  They are comparing this pregnancy to her last one; commenting on how much weight she gained with baby Saint as compared to baby North.  

Are you kidding me????

According to the March of Dimes, the leading authority on maternal and infant health, new moms should focus on healthy eating and adequate sleep postpartum.  They also recommend to follow the advice of your physician before beginning an exercise program.  Additionally, if you're breastfeeding, your nutrition is twice as important.  Now, I don't know Kim K's plans on breastfeeding, but right now, just like every other new mom, she should  be focused on self care and baby bonding, not throwing herself into extreme dieting and frantic exercise.

Quoted directly from the March of Dimes website:

Many of today's Hollywood moms get back to their original figure in record time. When you see how great they look, you may feel pressure to drop the baby weight quickly. But it's not a race to the skinny jeans. Focus on living a healthy lifestyle, and the rest will fall into place.

Exactly my thoughts! Listen up ladies, I'm going to get real specific here:

A healthy of lifestyle of balance is your best strategy for long term weight management. Additionally, it's not all about the scale.  Your body fat percentage, how you feel, measurements, blood pressure, resting heart rate and blood sugar are all great ways to measure progress with any program, whether your goal is to lose or gain (muscle, fat, strength).

You heard it straight from a certified personal trainer with a long roster of healthy and happy clients: focus on balance and everything will take care of itself.  

Additionally, loving your post-baby body, no matter how it looks, is very important.  It's going to look and feel different.  But, you carried life and that is a miracle.  Rejoice! Thank God for your baby.  Don't dwell on the superficial.  Just focus on taking care of that baby and yourself.  As a woman who has struggled with fertility, I would trade all my workouts, runs and deadlift sessions to hold a healthy baby in my arms.  Embrace your body.  Love yourself.  Don't stress out over the pounds and don't shame or pass judgement on other women.  We need to lift one another up and encourage each other.  Be kind, and you can start by telling the haters and nosy reporters to LEAVE KIM KARDASHIAN ALONE!

Yours in health,
Coach Steph

Shift Your Thinking

I talk a lot in my blog and on my Facebook page about embracing a new mindset.  The old days of only being concerned about weight loss are gone.  It's time to shift your thinking.

I believe that all women are beautiful.  I believe that God created us to be so much more than attractive beings for men or others to ogle.  In my opinion, true beauty comes from a) knowing who you are b) embracing your flaws and c) living your purpose.

When we focus solely on the number on the scale, the size of our jeans and the space we take up, we are truly limiting our possibilities.  Frankly, it's exhausting worrying about things like, "am I thin enough? Am I pretty enough?  Will people judge me if I don't look a certain way?"

My pastor at church said something really profound a couple of weeks ago in a sermon.  "Who told you that?  Who told you that you weren't good enough?"

It's so simple, yet so true.  Who set these unreachable standards?  Who gets to decide what's "in or out?" All throughout history, the standard of beauty for women has changed.  But the truest standard of beauty that will never go out of style is one that is ordained by God.  He created you: perfect, beautiful, amazing YOU!

The truth is, when you are secure in who you are and the God who created you to live His purpose for your life, you don't give a flip about what others have to say.  That's the enemy talking.  Don't let him into your thoughts.  Shift your thinking.  

I know all of this is easier said than done. I'm a work in progress when it comes to my thoughts and how they influence my thinking and actions.  

So, as I stated above, when you know WHO you are (I'm fearfully and wonderfully made Psalm 139:14) and you are LIVING your purpose, it becomes easier to EMBRACE your flaws, which is the biggest step in accepting your body and starting to shift your thinking.

Surround yourself with positive people who lift you up and encourage you. Maybe it's time to do a friend-detox.  

Speak kindly about yourself. People laugh when I tell them to speak aloud positive affirmations about their body in the mirror.  But, thoughts become things and the more you outwardly speak positively about your body, the more your mind will follow suit. 

Exercise and eat well because it makes you feel good.  The weight loss and aesthetic improvements will come.  Look, there's nothing wrong with wanting to lose a few pounds or feel better in your clothes.  But I'm telling you, when you focus on improving the health of your body rather than punishing it, making better choices becomes easier and the weight loss will happen.

Love your body the way it is right now.  Don't wait for it to be thinner, leaner or more muscled.  Find things you love about your body and embrace your flaws.  Speaking from experience, no matter how "lean" you get, you will always find things about your appearance that you wish you could change.  Focus on the positive.

If you need some accountability or don't know where to start your journey, I'd love to help.

xoxo, 
Coach Steph

Follow me on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter for motivation, tips and humor.  Reach out to me privately if you're ready to shift your thinking.  

Where do I start?

Congratulations! You've decided to start a fitness/eating/healthier living program.  But you're probably asking yourself, "Where do I start?"

"Where do I start" is the number one question I get as a personal trainer and coach.  Here's a few tips to get you started.

1. What are your goals?
Why are you doing this?  What do you hope to accomplish?  Having a clear vision of your goals is important.

2. What will happen when you reach your goal?
You have a clear goal - great!  What will happen when you get there?  The number one reason people gain weight back after reaching a goal is because they didn't think about the 'after.' What would happen when you met the goal?  Remember, this is the rest of your life.  Don't be shortsighted.

3.  Start small.
Small, consistent habit changes that you can adhere to are the keys to longterm success.  Focus on one habit at a time.  If you don't eat breakfast, work on eating breakfast everyday until that becomes normal for you.  Some habits will take less time to achieve than other.

4.  Celebrate the small victories.
You passed on seconds at dinner because you were satisfied and didn't need anymore food.  Pat yourself on the back!
You did 10 push-ups in a row. Last week you could only do 8.  Celebrate!
You packed your lunch every day for work and felt good about it.  Great job!
Whatever it is that makes you proud for continuing on this journey, celebrate it.  Remember, consistently doing the right things add up to big results.

5.  Create a support network.
Tell people you love and trust what you are doing.  Tell them you need their support when you want to quit.  Tell them to remind you of your goals.  Having the right support will make all the difference.

6.  Keep the negative nellies at an arm's length.
Change is hard.  Sometimes it's even harder for the people in our lives than it is for us. When you decide to make a change in your lifestyle, some people in your life may become negative or downright mean.  Your desire to change is highlighting their decision not to.  That's ok.  Just protect yourself.  Your support network will help you.

7.  Create a mindset of success.
You can do this.  You are worth it.  You are enough. You're doing this for you.  Repeat these things every day in the mirror.  Say them until you believe them.

8.  Get professional help.
There are a lot of trainers and health professionals who are in the business of helping people get healthier.  Do your research.   Ask for referrals.  Interview them.  They are a part of your team and you need to be comfortable opening up and being honest with them so they can help you.  All trainers, nutritionists, dietitians, physicians and health coaches are not created equal.  A true professional will have no problem complying with your need to gather information before you make a decision.

9.  Make a decision.
Your gut is usually right.  If your gut tells you that your trainer, coach, nutritionist, etc is a good fit for you, then go with that.  Do your research, but trust your intuition.

10.  Love yourself.
Self worth and self esteem start at the core with loving who you are, right now, whatever you look or feel like.  If you think losing weight or getting more fit will make someone else like you or love you more, you're wrong.  Loving you, flaws (we all have them) and all is the key to happiness.  When you love you, everything else falls into place.  Love yourself enough to take care of your temple.  It's the only place you have to live.

Reach out if you need more help.

xoxo,
Coach Steph

Comparison is the Thief of Joy

Teddy Roosevelt was a pretty smart guy.  "Comparison is the thief of joy." I feel like this applies to so many areas of our lives.  Specifically, I'm going to speak to fitness and weight loss.

I coached a personal training client yesterday on this topic.  She was finishing her post-workout cardio and cooling down on the treadmill when she asked me, "so how much progress should I be seeing right now?"

This is such a loaded question and I HATE IT!

Do you know why I hate it?  Because no two people are the same.  Because no two bodies metabolize food the same way.  Because no two bodies respond to exercise and weights the same way.  Get the idea?

Comparison is dangerous.  It can take you down a scary path where you start to look at your life and someone else's and decide that their life is better or easier.

When you compare your fitness progress to someone else's, you can take yourself out of the game or delay your success.

I know it's tough not to compare; when you see those amazing 'before and after' ads for weight loss. My company even has a weight loss challenge and we use testimonials to show people what's possible.  That's the key, though.  Be inspired by other people's success.  Don't compare.

Honestly, shows like 'The Biggest Loser' or 'Extreme Weight Loss' don't help either.  Those people are in completely controlled environments with expert help 24/7.  That's just not reality.  Most of those people go home and gain the weight back because they didn't gradually learn how to adopt a new lifestyle.

How can you overcome the desire to compare?  Track your progress! Not just your weight and measurements.

• Take photos - Progress photos, wearing the same clothes, in the same pose at the same time every week.  Put the photos side-by-side.  You'll start to see changes.
• Celebrate the NSVs - Non-scale victories.  How do your clothes fit?  Can you do something you couldn't do when you first started?  Has your health improved? I always recommend clients do a physical inventory when they first start.  What hurts?  What is physically hard to do? What are you unable to do because of your physical condition?  Revisit that list every 4-6 weeks and track your progress that way.
• Track your vital signs - Record your resting heart rate and blood pressure when you first start.  Check them every 4 weeks.  When they improve, that means you are getting healthier.  Yay for you!

These are just a few ways to show yourself that your exercise and healthy eating plan are working.  Be kind to yourself.  Change takes time.  How long had you been eating unhealthy food?  How long did it take you to gain the weight?  It's going to take a while for your body to reset and return to its home state, its homeostasis.  Do you know what homeostasis means?  When internal conditions remain relatively stable and constant. That's balance. When your body is balanced, you will be able to lose or maintain your weight.  

Need some help?  More accountability?  Someone to just listen? I'm here.  Reach out.  I'd love to chat.

Check out YouTube for my video summary on this topic.

xoxo,

Coach Steph

Energy: The Chicken and The Egg of Fitness

I hear it all the time as a personal trainer from prospective clients, "I just don't have the energy to workout." My response every time is, "exercise gives you more energy." Client replies, "But how am I supposed to get the energy to workout and get started?"

What came first: the chicken or the egg?  

You need energy to workout, but how do you workout with no energy?

Most of know we need to exercise on a regular basis, not just for weight loss, but for improved health and to strengthen our cardiovascular system.  Cardiovascular disease is the number one cause of death in the U.S, and the American Heart Association recommends 150 minutes a week of moderate cardiovascular activity or 75 minutes of vigorous activity, or a combination of both.  That's only 25 minutes a day, 6 days a week of moderate exercise: bike riding, walk/jogging, circuit training, HIIT training, etc.

First, let's understand how exercise gives you energy.

According to the Mayo Clinic, "exercise and physical activity deliver oxygen and nutrients to your tissues and help your cardiovascular system work more efficiently. And when your heart and lungs work more efficiently, you have more energy to go about your daily chores."  Makes sense, right?

But, what if it's a struggle for you to find any more energy to start a fitness program?  You know you need to exercise, but between work, school, the kids, volunteer activities, your spouse, etc, you are wiped.

Here's a few tips to help get you started:

1. Start small - don't go into fitness 'all or nothing.' Pick something you can do for 10-15 minutes a day.  A walk, a bike ride, etc.  This doesn't have to happen in a gym.  I live in Florida where it's almost impossible to exercise outside in the summer unless you get up really early.  But, if you can make it work, do it.  

2.  Make a date with yourself - I put my workouts in my calendar. Monday, Wednesday and Friday are circuit training days.  Tuesday and Thursday are straight cardio. Saturday is a run or a boot camp.  Sunday is rest (or maybe shopping LOL).  Walking around Target does not feel like exercise to me!  Making an appointment signifies that fitness is an important part of your day. You schedule doctor appointments, activities for your kids and many other things.  Make fitness a priority, no matter how little time you have.

3.  Pick a schedule you look forward to - remember earlier I said to start small?  Start out with two days a week of an activity that a) gets your heart rate up and b)that you enjoy.  A good rule of thumb is that if you can hold a conversation without pausing for breath, you need to work a little harder.  Slowly build up to 6 days a week of moderate activity for 25 minutes.  It might take you 3 months.  Keep going.  You're improving your health and heart function.

4. Let go of comparison - President Teddy Roosevelt famously said, "comparison is the thief of joy." Teddy was a smart guy.  Do the best you can do, right where you are at this moment, with what you have today.  Someone will always be "better" than you: thinner, more fit, prettier, better at time management, etc.  Just do you.  You are awesome.

5. Any exercise is better than none at all - if you planned to do 30 minutes on the elliptical at the gym, but your boss held you at the end of the day for a project and now you only have 10 minutes before having to pick up your kids at daycare, than do your best work in 10 minutes.  Always have a back up plan.  Here's a quick, 10 minute total body workout that will rev your heart rate and boost your body's fat burning abilities:

30 seconds of jumping jacks
10 bodyweight squats
30 seconds of high knees
5 push-ups (modified or regular)
30 seconds of squat jumps
15 crunches
30 seconds of simulated jump rope
5 walking lunges 
30 seconds running in place
-Repeat as many times as you can in 10 minutes

6.  You are worth it - I know it's tough.  You have a lot of responsibilities. But trust me, you will be a better caretaker and provider for all the important people in your life when you carve out 30 minutes for yourself.  

One more thing...if you still find yourself needing a boost, please message me.  We can talk privately.  I offer free phone consultations to help you get started on your journey.

I was NEVER a supplement person, other than the occasional protein powder after a heavy strength workout. Then, I found SPX Nutri-Thin.  It helped me lose an additional 18 lbs and kick my coffee habit (even though I get up at 4 a.m.)  It gives me energy all day without the jitters. It's all-natural, organic and full of B vitamins.  I take it every day, as does my husband and many of my personal training clients.  If you'd like to hear more about it, please visit getspx.com.  

Hope this info helps you.  Now, get moving!

xoxo,
Coach Stephanie

Smoothie for breakfast? Make it filling!

One of the first questions I get asked as a trainer from new clients is, "what do I eat?" My answer (insert sarcasm), "FOOD!" Just kidding.  Kind of.  

Remember that food is fuel for your body and activity.  It sustains you and gives you energy to do all the activities life has to offer.  Don't make food the enemy or let it become and obsession.  

Think about it this way.  Your car requires gasoline to go.  How far can you get with the wrong grade of gas or with none at all?  You can't. 

Your body is an amazing machine that requires proper nutrition to function at its peak performance.  The best advice I can give you is that when you eat food in its most whole form, i.e. the way it came into the world/least processed, the better nutrition it will provide to your body.  

Getting started on a path to better eating is not easy.  I always recommend to not try to make drastic changes all at once.  If your goal is to start eating breakfast, do that for 21 days and it will become a habit.  If you go too long between meals, set a timer to remind you to eat a serving of almonds or have a cup of yogurt (preferably plain greek yogurt with your own fruit).  It is about the habits that we create that will help us transform our eating longterm (lifestyle change). 

As always, if you need individual help or coaching to make these changes, please reach out to me here through my blog or Facebook.  

My favorite smoothie recipe:
Blend the following ingredients until smooth. I like to freeze the blueberries because they act as the "ice."

8 oz coconut water
1 tbsp organic, unrefined coconut oil
1 tbsp flax seeds
1/2 c strawberries
1/2 c blueberries
1 c kale

This recipe will give you a meal replacement (meals should ideally be between 300-400 calories, depending on your individual caloric needs).

Speak Kindly, Think Positively, Breathe In, Breathe Out, Move On

When I think back about how I felt nearly 3 years ago, I get emotional.  I was tired all the time (tired doesn't even BEGIN to describe the fatigue I endured).  I got sick a lot.  None of my clothes fit.  I was uncomfortable.  I was not "fat and happy." I was overweight and miserable.  

Every day I have to make a conscious choice to move my body, choose foods that give my body the nutrition and fuel it needs and be kind to my mind.  

I did a hard workout on Wednesday with my trainer (even trainers have trainers), and I was beating myself up for not being as "in-shape" as I thought I "should" be.  And then I had a flashback to 3 years ago and remembering not being able to get into my 4x4 Jeep because I couldn't lift my bodyweight into the vehicle.  I then smiled because I just did 25 minutes of 40/20 HIIT Training (circuit intervals with weights), something I never would have been able to do 3 years ago.  I also looked in the mirror and reminded myself that I just ran a 15k 3 weeks ago.  My body can do amazing things.

My point to all of this is you have to be kind to yourself.  Don't compare your progress to anyone else's.  There will be days you don't feel worthy. Just remember your WHY.  WHY are you getting healthier?  WHY are you exercising?  WHY are you choosing more nutritious foods?  Whatever your reasons, just take a minute, inhale, exhale and speak kindly to your body and your mind.  

This is a tough journey. Probably the hardest thing I've ever done, and maybe that you'll ever do.  But it is worth it.  I believe in each and every one of you.  Believe in yourself.  

How can I help you reach your goals?

Yours in health,
Coach Steph xoxo

My Name is Stephanie, and I Overeat...

Even coaches and trainers have "off" days.  I have maintained a 60 lb weight loss for almost two years.  I'm a runner and currently training for my second 15k.  I love to bench press, squat and dead lift. I am a certified personal trainer and gym owner with a long roster of happy clients.  And I'm an overeater.


Yep, you read that right.  For reasons that have nothing to do with hunger or properly fueling my body, I sometimes overeat.  Because the food tastes good.  Because overeating is familiar and comforting to me.

I'm not sure I'll ever "outgrow" this, but I am conscious of it.  I don't beat myself up, but I do acknowledge when it happens.  And then do you know what I do?

I move on.

Tomorrow is a new day with new food choices, new chances to work out and new experiences.  My overeating does not define me, but it does play a part in my journey. Without acknowledging when it happens, I'm doomed to fall back into overeating cycles.

Awareness is very powerful.  Being aware of your patterns and habits is the only way to break them (if necessary) and form healthy ones.  The key to a life of balance is awareness and self-love.  Don't beat yourself up over a meal or a whole day of food choices that are not congruent with your goals.  Recognize when it happens, AND MOVE ON.

xoxo,
Coach Steph

Inspiring Woman #1 - Real Women, Real Struggles, Real Inspiration Series

It's here! The first in a series of four blog posts about real women taking control of their self-image, fitness and health.  Every other week I'll bring you a story from a woman just like you and me who is just trying to love her self, be healthy and take back the notion that we have to be "perfect" to be fit and healthy.

Meet Brittany Arroyo:

Brittany is a nationally certified personal trainer (ACSM) out of Viera, FL and has been dedicated to changing her body and self-image through heavy weightlifting. 

Brittany has a history of eating disorders and being unkind to her body.  Through her fitness and wellness journey, she has been at war with the most powerful "muscle" in her body: her mind.  

Brittany counsels clients, friends and family members about health and fitness issues and has shared what she herself and others deal with.  She also gives her personal philosophy on coaching clients with diet and exercise.

Below is Brittany's personal and candid narrative of these trials and triumphs.  

Disordered Eating/Body Dysmorphia 

"I have a long past of disordered eating and body dysmorphia. While I am much healthier now, I find myself constantly berating myself (too fat, too many calories, not strong enough, not pretty enough, the list goes on). I say things to myself that I would never imagine saying to a loved one or client,  and yet since I've started working in the fitness industry, I've heard many women (and some men) say these things aloud about themselves. Most of the time it's in a joking manner, but I recognize the hurt and pain behind it, as it is my own. 

My struggle is with myself; how do I preach body love and acceptance when I don't accept and love my own body? On the flip side, how do I encourage healthy living and weight without creating unhealthy thought patterns and habits in the process?

I don't remember a time when I've felt comfortable with my body. I stopped eating in high school.  It got to a point where my parents intervened.  They said, 'get better or we're getting you professional help.'  I did go to therapy, but I wasn't ready to deal with it.

People pass judgement that mental health is internal.  As a society, we're bombarded with images and media. Appearance is important. I was raised in a loving home with supportive parents.  I was always comparing myself to others.  I think about it everyday.

I have a PT client in her 50s.  She's really fit but wants to look better.  She told me she's had liposuction and cosmetic surgery.  She only weighs 120 pounds yet still sees a fat person in the mirror.  I want my clients to accept and better themselves.  I want them to stop seeing unmet unrealistic expectations as failure. 

I need to find balance. I'm working on that and self-awareness.  I didn't even acknowledge the problems and the thought process until 1.5 years ago.  People want to train with me because of the knowledge and experience I have.  It's funny the way other people perceive us is not how we see ourselves.

Unhealthy Patterns on Nights and Weekends

"I struggle with not falling into the binge/restrict cycle. I eat super clean on weekdays, all day long and then night-time or the weekend rolls around and I lose my dang mind. I struggle daily to find a balance between being 'on' or 'off.'" 

Teaching Healthy Habits

"Tracking and calorie counting can lead to obsessive behavior.  'Cheat days' can be very detrimental.  I give general guidelines that will work for most people.  2-3 meals a week, eat whatever you want.  I try to screen people and be aware of triggers or red flags with clients.  I keep track and find out the WHY behind why people want to lose weight or get fit. 

I feel like disordered eating is very common.  We've come to accept strange habits as normal.  Juice cleanses, restrictive food habits and 'trendy diets' are all accepted as normal.  Hollywood perpetuates them.  Every person is a personal trainer and expert.  There's so much misinformation on the internet. I only read articles with scientific notation.  If there's no study to back it up, it's just conjecture.  I give resources with legitimate professionals in the industry."   

Working Out is 'All or Nothing'

"I am fairly good about this one.  My clients and friends, not so much. I find many people think they need to workout 7 days a week for an hour or more or else it's useless and they might as well do nothing. I try to emphasize that something is always better than nothing and more is not better but better is better when it comes to fitness.

Most of my clients think that if they can't do the perfect workout, then they shouldn't bother.  Effectiveness of your workout is more important than how long it is.  I give clients at home workouts to do in their off days.  Quickie workouts to create a habit. 

Set a minimum amount of days to workout, whether at home or they gym, and stick to it.  2-3 days at a minimum is my recommendation."

Brittany's Biggest Epiphany

"Lift weights.  Nothing will change your life more than to put weights on a barbell and lift. Lifting weights is the key to looking better, feeling better and thinking better.   I'm most proud of being able to deadlift 1.5 times my body weight and squat over 200 lbs.  I feel strong and powerful."

---Brittany Arroyo, ACSM Certified Trainer
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Committed to continuing education. PT is a science and exercise changes all the time.

Thank you to Brittany Arroyo for your candid testimony and advice to women and men.  Trainers are people too and no one is perfect.  When we stop comparing ourselves to others, we can start to achieve balance.  

Please join us in two weeks for our next profile of and inspiring woman.

Inspiring Woman #2

Perri G - Wife, Mother and Full-Time Chauffeur

Perri became a mom at age 40.  Blessed beyond measure, she struggles with having time to workout, eat well and achieve balance with her mom, wife and work duties.  I think a lot of people can really relate to Perri's story.  She and her husband are trying to be good examples of self-love and healthy body image to their son.  I hope to help Perri find solutions for her busy life, and in turn, help you make exercise and meal planning a priority in your own life.

Thanks for reading my blog this week.  This project is really important to me. I think we need to be talking about our body and food issues.  The only way the rhetoric will change is if we demand it to.  Love your body.  Love your exercise.  Love yourself.

Yours in health,
Coach Stephanie
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Momma said there'd be days like this...

Ok, so momma wasn't talking about weight loss, or working out, or nutrition, but I am.

I texted with a client today, checking in on her since we missed a workout last week due to the 4th of July and me taking a day off.  She was excited, as usual, (she has an awesome attitude and a great smile) to jump into a new week of training.  I reminded her to bring her new playlist so we could blare it in the gym.  Then, she replied to me with this:

"I went really off track this weekend with my eating, but I'm even more motivated now to do better.  I know I'll feel it tomorrow.  It almost feels like I gave up on myself and that it's totally not worth it."

Hold up.

I wear a lot of hats as trainer.  I create awesome and challenging workouts that push my clients farther than they believed they could go.  I motivate, always with a smile and tough love.  I help my clients stay on track with nutrition and diet and give them tips to keep eating healthy.  I'm tough as hell on them, but I want them to reach their goals as much as they do.

But somedays, I'm a friend and a listener.  I have to remind my clients how worthy they are of the life they're working toward.  Today, I had to fight the urge to have a knee-jerk reaction and spout motivation and just listen and ask questions.

So I replied to her, "What do you think caused you to go that far off?"  If I were sitting with her in person, I would have leaned in and given her my full attention.  

She told me this, "Just the struggle of always being good, July 4th and not feeling like what I'm doing is good enough.  I just completely gave up on myself this weekend.  It's so easy to give in when everyone else is ok with it."

Just a few thoughts here.  This young woman is remarkable.  She's building a successful career and getting married next year (I'm so excited to attend her wedding).  She had already lost 50 pounds before we started working together by making changes to her diet and moving more.  By the time we connected,  she was ready to work with a trainer who would hold her accountable but also push her and help her reach her goals.  She wanted to lose more weight, tone up, and feel and look amazing in her wedding dress (which she will, she's beautiful already).

If this gal was sitting in front of me, this is what I would tell her.  If her story and feelings are similar to yours, I would say these things to you, too.

1.  You are beautiful, worthy and enough. Do not give up on becoming the healthiest and fittest you for the fleeting feeling of doubt that will come and go as you continue on your journey.

2. Do not ever second-guess your decision to get healthy.  You are making an investment in your temple.  You are improving the vehicle to live your best life.  Never feel bad about that.

3. You will have set-backs.  We are human and fallible.  We need support sometimes to keep going.  If this is you, find someone who supports you and your goals that you can reach out to when you're feeling bad.

Ok, so after that text I wanted to wrap my arms around her. I hate that we (speaking for myself here too) only feel validated or worthy by the numbers in our jeans.  I tell clients all day long to never forget how much progress they've made.  I'm human, too.  I have days where I look in the mirror and pick myself apart.  But, then I pull out my before photo, and remind myself how I used to feel and how far I've come, and I instantly smile.  That is what I'd say to her; just remember, smile and keep going.

She continued to tell me some other things on her mind, and then we got to the heart of the matter: she tried on some clothes at a trendy store on a shopping trip and was disappointed by how she looked and that she wasn't quite comfortable with how she looked and fit in them yet.

Now I really wanted to hug her.  Ladies, this is especially geared toward you so listen up.

It is going to take time for your mind to see how you really look.  Our eyes are so used to seeing us a certain way in the mirror. Even as we become smaller and more toned, we will always be our biggest critics.  It doesn't matter how many people tell us how great we look and how much progress we've made, we still don't quite believe it.  

The thing I want to tell you is you have to start believing that you are beautiful! You were beautiful when you weighed a little more, and you're beautiful now.  

Homework assignment:  stand in front of the mirror and say aloud something you like about yourself.   Say it until you believe it.  I know it sounds cheesy, but every day I tell myself how awesome my big butt it is; I love it! Ok I'm being a little silly, but I do! And I'm proud of how fit my body is and how many things it can do.  I also have a great smile (thanks mom and dad for all the dental work lol).

What do you love about yourself, physically or otherwise? Only say good things about you. No negative talk.  Don't leave your mirror until you believe the words that are coming out of your mouth.   This is not narcissism.  This is self-love.

Ladies (and guys too), love yourself.  Love your amazing body.  My client can now do three sets of regular push-ups.  When we started working together in January, she could barely do one.  That is amazing!

Change takes time.  Be kind to yourself.  Don't get so caught up in the end result that you miss the journey.  Reflect on the changes.  Love yourself.

Yours in health,
Stephanie